God parents us as we parent our children.

Christian parents should be able to make this bold statement to our children: "you should follow my example, just as I follow Christ's". The Apostle Paul made this statement to new believers (1 Cor. 11:1) not out of arrogance- he did not think of himself as sinless...he could not tell them to imitate Jesus because they had not met Him, and the Gospels had not been written then. The best way then to point these new Christians to Christ was to point them to a Christian whom they trusted. In the same vein, the best way to be parents, ultimately pointing our children to Christ, is to walk in step with God as they follow us. Imitating our Heavenly Father, the best parent, is a sure step towards succeeding in the ministry of parenthood. 

What does parallel parenting look like?

1. It means you're are not perfect, and you know it and are willing to work at getting better 

2. It teaches you to rely more on God and not yourself because you realize how weak you are at keeping your word

3. It affords your children the blessing of learning 'first-hand' from you as you live life as a Christian

4. You come to appreciate the love, patience, kindness and mercy of God more, and by His Grace, reflect these virtues in your relationships 

5. As you fall down, recover and try again everyday, you better acknowledge how God works in you, both to will and do according to His good pleasure 

As we follow the patterns and instructions of God concerning everyday life, may those around us see a significant positive growth pattern in our becoming more like Jesus. May our children be able to testify to our growth, and say things like: "dad is more generous than he was a couple of years back", "Mum has certainly made a lot of progress regarding patience this year", etc. 

Dear Lord, grant us the Grace to follow You more nearly and to walk alongside our children in their relationship with You. Amen.

 In the end, God has no 'grandchildren'....only dearly beloved children who are loved with an everlasting love. Our children are God's children...we are temporary stewards and it's such a great honour and privilege to partner with the Most High God in raising the next generation. 

Good movies should be watched more than once.

FB 21st July 2015

God calls us all to be evangelists, basically to share the news about Him to other people. Whether that’s through sharing why we believe or by telling our story of how God’s transformed our lives, we’re called to tell others about Him. But we don’t always feel qualified to do it. We think we’re not good enough at talking to others, we’re too afraid of what people might think of us or we think that evangelizing is for certain people. The thing is, God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called. The devil can try and tells us that God only uses people with a certain IQ level or those with degrees or a particular personality. But this isn’t true. Jesus said to His disciples, ‘You will be my witnesses…to the ends of the earth.’ The group of disciples were made up of fisherman, tax collectors – everyday kinds of people. Jesus didn’t pick the most educated, the wealthiest or the best speakers. He picked people who would be willing to follow Him. So when we’re willing to follow, He’ll use us. And He’ll equip us to do what He’s calling us to do. ‘Few of you were wise in the world’s eyes or powerful or wealthy when God called you. Instead, God chose things the world considers foolish in order to shame those who think they are wise. And He chose things that are powerless to shame those who are powerful’ (1 Corinthians 1:26-27 NLT). So however we’re feeling about ourselves, we can know for sure that God wants to use us and will help us to tell others about Him. We just need to be willing to follow His call.

****Message from UCB worht keeping. FB-8th February 2018

"If your life feels small, anonymous, unseen, and unimportant, remember that God put you exactly where you are right now, in this season for a purpose — a purpose greater than you or I could even imagine! What you are doing in your every day life matters. Just like the mom who packed the lunch that fed 5,000, your daily doings can be used by Jesus to rock the world! The small things we do matter. God takes the small and common of our daily lives and does what only He can do with it." - Melanie Shankle

....I shared this on Facebook on 5th Dec. 2017....Worth keeping 💯 

An article i put up in my journal on 1st October 2019...worth sharing...I have underlined the portions that I think need the most emphasis in our day. Summary: our children need US. :)

WHAT A FOUR-YEAR OLD SHOULD KNOW:

• They should know that they are loved wholly and unconditionally, all of the time.
• They should know that they are safe and they should know how to keep themselves safe in public, with others, and in varied situations.
• They should know that they can trust their instincts about people and that they never have to do something that doesn’t feel right, no matter who is asking.
• They should know their personal rights and that their family will back them up.
• They should know how to laugh, act silly, be goofy and use their imagination.
• They should know that it is always OK to paint the sky orange and give cats six legs.
• They should know their own interests and be encouraged to follow them. If they couldn’t care less about learning numbers, their parents should realize they’ll learn them accidentally soon enough and let them immerse themselves instead in rocket ships, drawing, dinosaurs or playing in the mud.
• They should know that the world is magical and that so are they.
• They should know that they're wonderful, brilliant, creative, compassionate and marvelous.
• They should know that it’s just as worthy to spend the day outside making daisy chains, mud pies and fairy houses as it is to practice phonics. Scratch that– way more worthy.

Here’s what parents need to know:

• That every child learns to walk, talk, read and do algebra at their own pace and that it will have no bearing on how well they walk, talk, read or do algebra.
• That the single biggest predictor of high academic achievement is reading to children. Not flash cards, not workbooks, not fancy preschools, not blinking toys or computers, but Mum or Dad taking the time every day or night (or both!) to sit and read them wonderful books.
• That being the smartest or most accomplished kid in class has never had any bearing on being the happiest. We are so caught up in trying to give our children “advantages” that we’re giving them lives as multi-tasked and stressful as ours. One of the biggest advantages we can give our children is a simple, carefree childhood.
• That our children deserve to be surrounded by books, nature, art supplies and the freedom to explore them. Most of us could get rid of 90 percent of our children’s toys and they wouldn’t be missed, but some things are important– building toys like LEGO and blocks, creative toys like all types of art materials (good stuff), musical instruments (real ones and multicultural ones), dress-up clothes and books, books, books (incidentally, much of this can be picked up quite cheaply at thrift shops).
• They need to have the freedom to explore with these things, too– to play with scoops of dried beans in the high chair (supervised, of course), to knead bread and make messes, to use paint and play dough and glitter at the kitchen table while we make dinner even though it gets everywhere, to have a spot in the yard where it’s absolutely fine to dig up all the grass and make a mud pit.
• That our children need more of us. We have become so good at saying that we need to take care of ourselves that some of us have used it as an excuse to have the rest of the world take care of our kids. Yes, we all need undisturbed baths, time with friends, sanity breaks and an occasional life outside of parenthood. But we live in a time when parenting magazines recommend trying to commit to 10 minutes a day with each child and scheduling one Saturday a month as family day. That’s not OK!
• Our children don’t need Nintendos, computers, after school activities, ballet lessons, play groups and soccer practice nearly as much as they need US.
• They need fathers who sit and listen to their days, mothers who join in and make crafts with them, parents who take the time to read them stories and act like idiots with them. They need us to take walks with them and not mind the .1 MPH pace of a toddler on a spring night. They deserve to help us make dinner even though it takes twice as long and makes it twice as much work. They deserve to know that they’re a priority for us and that we truly love to be with them.